The asshole "allows himself to enjoy special advantage… out of an entrenched sense of entitlement", immunised against complaints. Our supervisors knew this worker was an asshole but didn't really seem to be doing anything to stop her harmful behaviors until they received these statements. Management changed and so did the whole atmosphere. Trust me, it's possible. By no means all obnoxious behaviour is assholish: James offers a taxonomy of assholes, including the boorish asshole Noel Gallagher , the reckless asshole Dick Cheney and the smug asshole Richard Dawkins — who may be right about atheism, but who comes across as an asshole, James argues, because he seems to consider himself specially entitled to ignore the toughest philosophical arguments against his position.
Always get a signed contract before you start working. For the sake of your mental and physical health, and for the sake of your friends and family, you have to find a new job. Going by you because you go to slow is what successful people do. A bad boss is a big problem, and not easily fixed.
Recently a reader who wished to remain anonymous told me a story about her experience with a director of photography DP who was treating her terribly:. In their mind, this is winning and the reaction you show or the anger you return only fuels their motivations. There are tons of ways people can be a sphincter, and some can be interpreted that way just because of a personality clash. Driven by the belief that their winning is all that matters, they are willing to destroy everyone and everything around them to make their quest come true. If the customer cannot comply, explain you are going to have to end the interaction and notify a superior.
Replies to my comment. And I take it very seriously. Exhibit one here is the radio producer who told me that she felt oppressed because her boss was constantly stealing her food -- right off her desk. Find this article useful? And I must be honest. Knowing when to quit is not that complicated.